Albert Camus, friendship and suicide
“Friendship is less simple. It
is long and hard to obtain
but when one has it there's
no getting rid of it; one simply has to
cope with it. Don't think for a minute
that your friends will telephone you
every evening, as they ought to, in order
to find out if this doesn't happen to be
the evening when you are deciding to
commit suicide, or simply whether you
don't need company, whether you are
not in the mood to go out. No, don't
worry, they'll ring up the evening you
are not alone, when life is beautiful. As
for suicide, they would be more likely to
push you to it, by virtue of what you owe
to yourself, according to them. May
heaven protect us, cher Monsieur, from
being set upon a pedestal by our
― Albert Camus, The Fall
The above quote penned down by the pioneer of absurdism Albert Camus steals away everything that I think of friends and friendship.
Now don't get me wrong here, I am not against socialising and mutual symbiosis. After all we human beings are social animals ,we need people around because we are not well equipped to officiate as an standalone entity.
Also I am not haranguing against love. Loving someone is something that is present innately in us. And so we find ourselves loving our parents, siblings, wife/girlfriend and friends.
But be careful if you have friends. They are the unnecessary inevasible evils. Don't think for a moment that they know everything about you. They will love their own reasons for loving you more than loving you as a person. And their reasons for loving you will keep on changing untill they are left with no reasons whatsoever for loving you.
Don't think for a moment that they will help you out when you are depressed. They might try to cheer you up but only to temper you into one of their reasons for loving you. They will hate the depressed you so much that if you didn't change your mood in congruence with their deliberations they will leave you at it. And god(provided he exists) forbids if you kill yourself then they will be the first one to vouch for the fact that you did it to youself by your own virtue.
"He/she was such a fun loving person , I don't know why he/she did that"
"He/she was just depressed over that small incident, I don't know why he/she did that"
"He/she was a good friend of mine, I don't know why he/she did that"
These will be the most common monologues that they will sputter.
And hence cher monsieur may heaven(read randomness) protect us from being set upon a pedestal by our friends.